Cultivate Non-attachment and Watch Your Life Expands

We tend to accumulate things. The more the merrier. The bigger the better. We love to have more money. We go for the latest gadgets. We upgrade our cars. We move to bigger houses. We accumulate trophies and certificates. We feel proud of our business trips. We brag about our holiday trips.

It is perfectly fine to enjoy quality living. We do not have to give up our possessions. But if we are overly obsessed with material accumulation and have strong emotional attachment to our possessions, rewards and lifestyles, our life will constrict correspondingly. We feel elated when we get our prized possessions, get the promotion or get to travel in style. Anything less deflates our ego. Our happiness index fluctuates with the movement in external circumstances. What happens when our car is being scratched or our money stolen? We feel heartache. What happens if we wake up one day to find that all our belongings and house are gone? We will crumble. Given today’s reality where stock market can crash like nobody’s business and earthquake can swallow up a big part of a country, nothing is impossible.

We need to learn to let go of our attachments, even though this may be tough in the beginning. Our joy and emotional well-being should emanate from within and not outside of us. When we let go our attachment of material possessions, we regain control of ourselves. We do not need to look for external validations as we can be fulfilled within. When we start to tune inwards, we feel more peaceful. Our inner power grows. And nobody can take away from us the things that we build within ourselves.

Many of us are also very attached to the people around us. A wife attached to her husband, a father to his children and so on. When a wife is very attached to her husband, she will start to have funny thoughts when he comes home late. When she starts to interrogate him, they will probably end up in a quarrel. It is always possible to love someone yet at the same time do not get attached to the person. Give him or her the space. And the beautiful thing is, the more you let go, the less the tension and the more love grows.

JL Kah has profound interest in the areas of self improvement and motivation. She enjoys travelling to different places and loves to share her thoughts and touch lives. You can visit her website at :

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