How to Boost Self Esteem and Become the Person You Always Wanted to Be ?

im 21 and in college . i'm just having trouble staying motivated on my education as well as my life . I used to be an honor roll student but now I am struggling to stay in college . I am just looking for ways to remind myself that I am still that person because I often feel like I don't amount to anything .

Suggestion:

Hi,

In my experience, I would say the following things are important:

1) Have a support network of some kind – people who will be your cheerleaders. If your parents are out of the question or you don't have a few good friends to turn to, get a therapist.
2) Next try some new activities you're interested in. Ideally, something to take you out of your current comfort zone. A sport? A martial art? Painting? Just start small. Growth occurs in baby steps, not leaps and bounds.
3) If you fall down, get back up and try again. An instructor once told me, "fall down twice, get up 3 times". That advice has served me well.
4) Also, take a sheet of paper and write down all the ways in which your appreciate yourself. Write "I like myself because I'm…(kind, generous, etc.)" and really let that sink in. If you catch yourself thinking negatively of yourself, think about that piece of paper and what's on it.

And remember, as a little kid gold medalist Michael Phelps was afraid of the water, so the first stroke he mastered was the backstroke. But with the right attitude, training, and support, we'd probably all agree he is someone who has a very high level of self-esteem. But he didn't start out that way. It was built over time. You can do that too.

Good luck.