I'm almost 15 and I'm in the tenth grade. Three months ago, I was the stereotypical nerd. I wore glasses, had no friends, was really socially awkward, and was just a guy no one wanted to be around. About a month and a half ago, I got a huge wake-up call…I met a girl who I really, really liked. This made me want to change for the better, and become a more likeable person. I got contacts and a nice haircut. I started dressing better, and while doing all of this it even motivated me to take up something Ive wanted to do for a long time: learn to play the guitar.
So, now, I wear contact lenses, look twenty times better, and I'm learning to play the guitar. (albeit very slowly…I've been taking lessons, but I can still only play songs with one or two strings at the time) You'd think I'd have a bit of self-confidence, right? No. See, due to the way people treated me for the past three years of middle/high school, every time I look in the mirror, I see only my flaws. Every time I think about who I am and what I'm like, I only see my flaws. I'm entirely too self-conscious, and I've tried not caring what others think, but I'm just always so afraid I'll get made fun of or put down for what's wrong with me. As a result of this, I can't accurately judge how "good-looking" I am, as I always see myself as hideous.
So anyway, this girl I like so much…I haven't even really met her yet. I've said "hi', once, and made eye contact a couple times, but nothing more than that. I know you think that I can't possibly like her that much, but I already like her more than I've liked any other girl. See, I'm a very traditional guy. I would never be able to date, or even be attracted to, a girl that would wear short shorts, for example. Another example of a girl I could never be attracted to is one that would like to get breast implants any time in her life. Those things just seem too superficial to me, and I really don't like that type of person. This girl I like is shy, quiet, modest, very intelligent (100% average in the class we share), everything I was looking for in a girl…In fact, she's the only girl I've really liked at all, just because she seems to be the only one who shares my view of life: Looks don't matter nearly as much as more deep things, like friendship, intelligence, personality, etc. Nearly all of the other girls I got to school with are extremely shallow, and I can't stand them for it.
Well, anyway, I believe I've already taken up way to much of your time, and I'll wrap this up, now…I ride the bus with the girl I like, and I have a class with her. The teacher regularly switches up the assigned seating in the class, and I can sit wherever I want on the bus. The issue is, on the bus, there's also assigned seats (which no one, except for the girl I like, follows). This would be really awkward if I just sat with her one day and she just said something like "Why aren't you sitting in your assigned seat?". What should I do, how should I do it, but most of all: How can I get some self-confidence?
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Okay, here it goes:
So first off, that is really sweet that you changed your looks for her..and playing guitar is a really good decision–it definitely helps relieve stress (i also play guitar).
But the thing is, girls (well at least me), like flaws. You see, Imperfection is beautiful–it's something everyone in the world can share..I know that you are self-conscious, we all are, but once you take what you have and…embrace it (wow, this is sounding deep), you can be confident with yourself…and confidence, my friend, is unbelievably attractive.. 
If you look in the mirror and see yourself as hideous, then guess what? You are hideous..Now im not saying to be totally vain, but at least see yourself as "good looking." Okay? Okay.
Now the issue with the bus: I'm not sure what to do with this..maybe, MAYBE, if you have homework from that class, you can ask her if she could help you on the bus with it? Just sit down right there, and be all like "Hey, do you know how to get the answer to this, because I am having a hard time understanding it." That might work.
Now, the hardest part..Self confidence isn't gained over night, hun. It takes practice…like learning guitar, for example. If you try to do it all at once, you're overwhelmed–and usually lose everything that you've worked for…build it up gradually. Start telling yourself "I DO look good today" or "I did well wit..blah blah blah" and…well you get the point. I really wish you luck! And don't be so hard on yourself..
and sorry about the essay I wrote. Hah, but I hope it helps…and if it doesn't, I guess I'm the one who took you're time.. Well, good luck again. I'm sure everything will work out fine.
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