Why is It That When I Do Not Contact Him…?
then he starts to make excuses to call me? My husband and I have been separated for over a month now and most of the time it is I who has called him. I do this out of pathetic desperation, just wanting things to work between us. He has made no effort for a reconciliation and yet when I suggest a divorce he says he does not want one. We have been married a little over 4 years now. It is as if he stonewalls me as a way to motivate me to give in to his ways, feels like a power struggle with him. What would be anyone's advice on me no longer contacting him at all, I mean to simply ignore him. What do others think will happen? I say this because when he does suggest to talk he tells me to call him when I want to talk about our problems. Honestly I feel he was the one that owes me an apology and just want to to work a little to get me back, not the other way around. I was thinking of not contacting him any longer because of the insensitive attitude I am faced with every time I do call. Can any one tell me why he stonewalls me and why he wants me to do all the work to get HIM back? Please I truly did your input on this.
Suggestion:
He's playing "power trip" games on you. He doesn't want to be married, but is keeping that fine string attached to you. Stop calling him & accept the fact it's over & you have him served with the divorce papers. Once you accept it's over, you'll finally be free to go forward with your life. You'll meet the person you were meant to be with in the first place. You WILL find happiness when you least expect it. Stop accepting the unacceptable from him & go forward with your own life. Put him in your past & leave him there, he's not worth it & you don't deserve this kind of treatment the rest of your whole life. The past is forever gone, your future is still your own. Make the best of it & you'll be so glad you did. You deserve happiness, it's out there for the taking. Just make it happen…all the best to you…:)
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Hi there,
First things first….No one on yahoo answers can answer those questions with the truly right answer, other than your own husband. We dont know what he is thinking….so why dont you ask him straight up why does he behave in such a shi.tty manner towards you.<<Communication is key.
However, with me saying that Il give my opinion…..Your husband doesnt want you back, thats why you feel like your making the effort and putting all the work in…because he simply doesnt care anymore to do the same. He is leaving you hanging because he likes the fact your needy and how your still clinging on to hope…..It makes him feel important….while sleeping with other woman without you knowing. In other words he wants his cake and wants to eat it too. Best of both worlds.
My suggestion to you is …you stop calling him …move on with your life and hope you find a man that deserves you and will respect you enough to not do what your first husband has. Go ahead with the divorce and have the papers mailed to him. In time he will see he lost the best thing he ever had….by this time you should have moved on to a better life with someone else<<<<I know its easier to say then actually do ….but your husband has found it easy to treat you like crap so why shouldnt you ??
Hope I helped good luck.
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